Don’t be afraid anymore
Fear is always safe.
So many people don’t react because they’re too scared. After all, it’s holding them back.
This attitude is reflected in our language, “What are they afraid of?” or “Why are they so scared?”
We live in a world where the primary fear of survival is not the major cause of our anxieties.
So how do we stop being consumed by anxiety and held back in our desires?
Fear is an illusion
The fears we feel today are just contemplative thoughts that we constantly rehash.
And they generate so much pain that you can be reassured by saying “it’s nothing, it’s just fear”.
As if fear were the height of dread.
Yet every apprehension reflects the mismanagement of our mental faculties.
This is not an impulsive reaction to a real danger of being attacked or threatened but everyone uses it as an excuse to remain inert.
Psychologists who are certain of their diagnosis by claiming that fear is related to a survival instinct that the person does not understand, that only the unconscious expresses, do not address the root of the matter.
When the brain cheats on us
Neuroscience has shown that we have unsuspected abilities and the reality is that every fear is just a contemplative process.
If we can figure it out then we can overcome it easily.
What is fear?
What are we so afraid of?
What can hurt us so much?
Think about it: what is the thing that scares you the most?
It suffices to identify the cause to moderate the suffering it creates.
Understanding your fear
It is often said that the unknown is scary.
But sometimes you just need to analyze the situation to understand it and manage your anxiety.
When a concern is defined, you develop a skill that leads you to confidence.
This is what psychology calls the confidence skill loop.
The more you understand a problem, the more consciously and confident you can overcome it.
Anything unexpected is apprehensive.
But once you figure out what the problem is, you can deal with it better.
The chains of reluctance
We are all afraid of three distinct areas that can affect our lives:
Fear of losing everything
If I change my life or have to do new things, I feel a sense of loss and that sensation blocks me.
I’m afraid to even try so as not to lose what I have.
Afraid of losing my job, afraid of losing my friends, afraid of losing my husband or wife, afraid of losing my children, afraid of losing a passion, fear of losing an advantage…
You want to start a business and everyone around you gets discouraged: you should be careful, think carefully, don’t commit too quickly, are you sure…
You come to think that your plan is dangerous: I have to be careful, I can’t lose my job and the security it brings, I won’t change everything.
In the end, you think more about what you’re going to lose, your situation, your salary, your career plan, the security of being led, your work colleagues, an activity you enjoy.
And you don’t make up your mind to quit.
This pattern applies to so many things: You are afraid to quit because cigarettes bring you calm and serenity.
You don’t want to go on a diet because you won’t be able to eat what you like.
Fear of losing.
Before even reorienting your life, you think about everything you risk losing and not what you can gain.
I may lose security in the short term, but in the long term what will I gain?
I will no longer be guided but I will learn to overcome challenges, to develop myself, to flourish on my own.
Focus on the benefits.
Don’t be apprehensive, stuck on the question “what if?”
If you question yourself in such a negative way, the fear becomes internal, the mind freezes and makes us believe that everything is impossible.
Fear of change
The process of change is difficult to embrace and frightening.
What will I lose by applying new rules of life?
Starting a business can be terrifying.
I don’t know how to do it, I don’t have the skills in this area, I’m not sure, I’ll have to work 24 24/7, I will have to work really hard for years, I will have no support, no help…
The process is scary so we prefer to back off the change.
Again, it is the same in all areas: the smoker does not envision the freedom he can experience by freeing himself from the cigarette, he sees only the difficulties of weaning, his frustration, the lack.
The person who would like to go on a diet focuses on the fact that he will have to renew his wardrobe, that he will have to learn to cook differently, that he will have to do some sport.
But mastering your life is also learning to see change as an opportunity, a happy event, and understand that yes, the challenge is essential but it develops us, it gives us self-esteem and fulfillment.
So, in the face of this process of change, by changing the perception, we accept the frequent changes of a lifetime.
Fear of failure
And finally, people are afraid of losing everything.
What if I start a new life and the grass is not so green on the other side?
The result will not be more positive than the doubts of the beginner.
What will happen if even while working like crazy, mastering my domain and investing 100%, my business does not work?
We then sit down to rehash the anticipated failure without certainty.
If you’re stuck at this stage, if you don’t change, for this reason, you’ll never know what maturity and mastery can accomplish.
Instead of focusing on the negative, you need to think, dream, visualize, and give your full attention to all the good that can come from a change, all the happiness, and satisfaction it can bring.
Quitting smoking will allow me not to be addicted to a few inches of tobacco in a rolled paper, not to enrich an industry that kills its customers, to relearn to breathe, to avoid serious illness, to regain my energy.
If I start a diet, I’ll love new flavors, I’ll have fun with new clothes, rediscover the joy of going out with friends, learn to love my body again.
I’m afraid of change
Think about all that is positive in change and by shifting your mindset you are in control of your thoughts and directing them.
If only loss scares you, if you only see the negative, the more you scare yourself and the more obsessive these thoughts become.
Your mind and body stiffen to say stop, don’t do this.
We are born and grow in an organism pre-built to resist and avoid anything that hurts us.
You just have to realize it to stop suffering by the thought of rehashing a pain that doesn’t exist and that you could know.
If you know deep inside yourself what can improve your life and don’t do it for fear of losing certain things, you are subconsciously living in frustration.
Sit down for a moment and think about what you want to do with your life.
You will find that you may have already lost some of the things you hold dear and all you have to do is focus on the joys and the satisfaction of a positive change.
You will then begin to understand that you are your guide, that you know where you want to go and what you want without fear and limits.
Fear: Forget Everything And Run!
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